Rabbi Twerski asks advice from GYE - Revision history

The.guard: /* Referral #2 */

2021-02-10T16:54:02Z

Referral #2

The.guard at 15:05, 10 February 2021

2021-02-10T15:05:39Z

The.guard at 14:44, 10 February 2021

2021-02-10T14:44:46Z

The.guard at 18:51, 9 February 2021

2021-02-09T18:51:13Z

The.guard at 17:12, 9 February 2021

2021-02-09T17:12:51Z

The.guard at 16:22, 9 February 2021

2021-02-09T16:22:21Z

The.guard: Created page with "== Is Rehab Advisable? == ''Dear Yakov:'' ''A wife said that someone recommended a week of intensive therapy at a rehab. Her husband's addiction is to porn and masturbation...."

2021-02-08T15:59:24Z

Created page with "== Is Rehab Advisable? == ''Dear Yakov:'' ''A wife said that someone recommended a week of intensive therapy at a rehab. Her husband's addiction is to porn and masturbation...."

New page

== Is Rehab Advisable? ==
''Dear Yakov:''

''A wife said that someone recommended a week of intensive therapy at a rehab. Her husband's addiction is to porn and masturbation. Is this advisable/necessary?''

''Twerski''
----I believe I know who the Rav is talking about. I spoke to the wife and the husband in depth last night and I told them both that I believe rehab is not necessary at this stage unless there will be continued relapses down the line. The wife is claiming zero tolerance for her husband's issues and she is pushing for drastic steps. I told her that it is good that she is giving over a strong message to her husband, because that will increase his chances of success in recovery. However, at the same time, she can't expect perfection right away. There may be a few relapses in the coming months as her husband grows in recovery. He is working the 12-Step program on the GYE phone conferences, and he has employed other powerful tools from our network as well (the double fence TaPHSiC method). Based on his wife's strong stance, his own determination and the tools he is currently using, I would put his chances of success at 75%. I think rehab would be a bit of an overkill at this stage.

Kol Tuv,

Yaakov
----''Thank you''

''Twerski''

@@ Line 94: / Line 94: @@
 ''Dear Yaacov:''
-''I have a cousin in Los Angeles who unfortunately lost her husband after a long battle with cancer.''
+''I have an acquaintance who unfortunately lost her husband after a long battle with cancer.''
 ''She has a 16 yr old son who has a porn problem. he has an excellent therapist who admits he is not competent in addiction. The son is not interested in GYE. The mother needs guidance. Whom can she contact?''
@@ Line 115: / Line 115: @@
 Kol Tuv,
-Yaakov
+== Huna ==

← Older revision		Revision as of 15:05, 10 February 2021
Line 90:		Line 90:

	I would also like to point out that many guys in SA have themselves been molested, and yet they are able to find freedom from their obsessions through the 12-Step program without a therapist. Perhaps we should suggest SA in Israel? (SA is generally more religious here in Israel than in the U.S.)		I would also like to point out that many guys in SA have themselves been molested, and yet they are able to find freedom from their obsessions through the 12-Step program without a therapist. Perhaps we should suggest SA in Israel? (SA is generally more religious here in Israel than in the U.S.)
		+
		+	== Referral #2 ==
		+	''Dear Yaacov:''
		+
		+	''I have a cousin in Los Angeles who unfortunately lost her husband after a long battle with cancer.''
		+
		+	''She has a 16 yr old son who has a porn problem. he has an excellent therapist who admits he is not competent in addiction. The son is not interested in GYE. The mother needs guidance. Whom can she contact?''
		+
		+	''Thank you''
		+
		+	''Twerski''
		+
		+	==== Our Response: ====
		+	Dear Rabbi Twerski,
		+
		+	If they are looking specifically for a therapist who specializes in teens they can try Riki Schwartz from R.E.L.I.E.F.
		+	Tel: 718-431-9501 Ext. 203
		+	E-Mail: [[Mailto:rschwartz@reliefhelp.org\|rschwartz@reliefhelp.org]]
		+
		+	We also have a special page with resources for teens (and their parents) over here:
		+
		+	<nowiki>https://guardyoureyes.com/resources/teens</nowiki>
		+
		+	Kol Tuv,
		+
		+	Yaakov

← Older revision		Revision as of 14:44, 10 February 2021
Line 72:		Line 72:

	''Twerski''		''Twerski''
		+
		+	== Referral ==
		+	''Dear Reb Yakov:''
		+
		+	''A mother called me about her 19 yr. old son who is in Israel, not functioning well. She says that he has a strong sex drive, but did not say how he was acting out.''
		+
		+	''She says that he was "molested at age 16." What she describes is the fooling around of two yeshiva boys. She is focusing on this "molestation" as the source of his problem, and says that only a therapist who has had experience treating molestation cases can help him''
		+
		+	''Can you recommend someone?''
		+
		+	''twerski''
		+
		+	==== Our Response: ====
		+	I have information on a number of good therapists in Israel who are trained in addiction, but I do not know if they are trained specifically to deal with molestation. Is he in the Jerusalem area?
		+
		+	The mother can call me at 646-600-8100 X 3.
		+
		+	I would also like to point out that many guys in SA have themselves been molested, and yet they are able to find freedom from their obsessions through the 12-Step program without a therapist. Perhaps we should suggest SA in Israel? (SA is generally more religious here in Israel than in the U.S.)

@@ Line 1: / Line 1: @@
 [http://wiki.guardyoureyes.com/Twerski_on_GYE Main Index]
 == Is Rehab Advisable? ==
@@ Line 7: / Line 27: @@
 ''Twerski''
-----I spoke to the wife and the husband in depth last night and I told them both that I believe rehab is not necessary at this stage unless there will be continued relapses down the line. The wife is claiming zero tolerance for her husband's issues and she is pushing for drastic steps. I told her that it is good that she is giving over a strong message to her husband, because that will increase his chances of success in recovery. However, at the same time, she can't expect perfection right away. There may be a few relapses in the coming months as her husband grows in recovery. He is working the 12-Step program on the GYE phone conferences, and he has employed other powerful tools from our network as well (the double fence TaPHSiC method). Based on his wife's strong stance, his own determination and the tools he is currently using, I would put his chances of success at 75%. I think rehab would be a bit of an overkill at this stage.
 Kol Tuv,
@@ Line 24: / Line 46: @@
 ''Twerski''
-----Dear Rabbi Twerski,
 We have a special page for teens on our website. Here are a few suggestions for the parents:

← Older revision		Revision as of 17:12, 9 February 2021
Line 1:		Line 1:
		+	[http://wiki.guardyoureyes.com/Twerski_on_GYE Main Index]
		+
	== Is Rehab Advisable? ==		== Is Rehab Advisable? ==
	''Dear Yakov:''		''Dear Yakov:''