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* ואם יקשה לו להסירם מדעתו מפני שטורדים דעתו מאד בחזקה אזי ישפיל נפשו לה' ויתחנן לו ית' במחשבתו לרחם עליו ברחמיו המרובים כרחם אב על בנים הנמשכים ממוחו וככה ירחם ה' על נפשו הנמשכת מאתו ית' להצילה ממים הזדונים ולמענו יעשה | * ואם יקשה לו להסירם מדעתו מפני שטורדים דעתו מאד בחזקה אזי ישפיל נפשו לה' ויתחנן לו ית' במחשבתו לרחם עליו ברחמיו המרובים כרחם אב על בנים הנמשכים ממוחו וככה ירחם ה' על נפשו הנמשכת מאתו ית' להצילה ממים הזדונים ולמענו יעשה | ||
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+ | == In the GYE Handbook == | ||
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+ | * '''Daven:''' With all our efforts, only Hashem can really help us at the end of the day. As Chazal say: ''"The Yetzer hara tries to kill a person each day, and if Hashem wouldn't help him, he could not overcome him.'' We have to recognize this truth and constantly whisper ''teffilos'' to Hashem for help. The Steipler writes regarding these tests, that some people need to daven 50 times a day to be protected. | ||
== From GYE Members == | == From GYE Members == | ||
* @YS: Realizing that this is an ''eis ratzon'' and using it to Daven, changes the way feel. When a tayva overtakes you feel differently. When I use a tefilla, it helps me change a little bit. | * @YS: Realizing that this is an ''eis ratzon'' and using it to Daven, changes the way feel. When a tayva overtakes you feel differently. When I use a tefilla, it helps me change a little bit. | ||
+ | * @SmartLakwood - [Use Step 3 if you're feeling overwhelmed], just let go and ask God to take over. | ||
== Notes == | == Notes == | ||
* Can use the metaphor of תפילת הדרך. Reference sources where this was actually used before going outside... | * Can use the metaphor of תפילת הדרך. Reference sources where this was actually used before going outside... | ||
+ | * Also remember that it's an עת רצון and you can daven for many things that you need. | ||
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+ | == Research == | ||
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+ | * Spiritual coping in ''Urge Specific Strategies (USS) Monti, P.M., Rohsenow, D.J., Swift, R.M., Gulliver, S.B., Colby, S.M., Mueller, T.I., Brown, R.A., Gordon, A., Abrams, D.B., Niaura, R.S., Asher, M.K., 2001. Naltrexone and cue exposure with coping and communication skills training for alcoholics: treatment process and one-year outcomes. Alcohol. Clin. Exp. Res. 25, 1634–1647.'' | ||
+ | * Marc Galanter, Zoran Josipovic, Helen Dermatis, Jochen Weber & Mary Alice Millard (2017) An initial fMRI study on neural correlates of prayer in members of Alcoholics Anonymous, The American Journal of Drug and Alcohol Abuse, 43:1, 44-54, DOI: 10.3109/00952990.2016.1141912. Summarized in https://www.futurity.org/aa-prayers-cravings-1155402-2/. | ||
+ | * The therapist reviews cognitive coping strategies such as ... meditating or asking for help through prayer or personal dialogue with God or a higher power. ''Dennis C. Daley;G. Alan Marlatt. Overcoming Your Alcohol or Drug Problem: Effective Recovery Strategies Therapist Guide (Treatments That Work) (Kindle Location 791). Kindle Edition.'' | ||
+ | * Commandment #1 - Morning Prayer Prayer is something that many sexual addicts find difficult to do, especially if they have been avoiding spirituality because of the shame and guilt of their behavior, or possibly because of what was done to them in the past. Prayer is simply a behavior that, when put in place, can change the addict's disposition. We know from all of the other addictions medical science has studied, that an addiction is basically self will run riot. This expression of addiction simply means "doing your own thing." So the first thing in the morning, put aside time to pray. Don't do your own thing. Do Commandment #1 instead. ''Weiss, Douglas. Sex Addiction: 6 Types and Treatment (p. 35). Discovery Press. Kindle Edition.'' See there at length. | ||
+ | ** Also see 101 Tips by Weiss Tip 3. | ||
== Specs == | == Specs == |
Latest revision as of 17:22, 7 January 2021
- Zos Brisi Ch. 14 - The Power of Tefilla
- Life Skills: Tefilla
- See Positive Vision Day 89
- Positive Vision Day 63-64.
- Battle of the Generation Ch. 45 (Tefilla)
Torah Sources
- ואם יקשה לו להסירם מדעתו מפני שטורדים דעתו מאד בחזקה אזי ישפיל נפשו לה' ויתחנן לו ית' במחשבתו לרחם עליו ברחמיו המרובים כרחם אב על בנים הנמשכים ממוחו וככה ירחם ה' על נפשו הנמשכת מאתו ית' להצילה ממים הזדונים ולמענו יעשה
In the GYE Handbook
- Daven: With all our efforts, only Hashem can really help us at the end of the day. As Chazal say: "The Yetzer hara tries to kill a person each day, and if Hashem wouldn't help him, he could not overcome him. We have to recognize this truth and constantly whisper teffilos to Hashem for help. The Steipler writes regarding these tests, that some people need to daven 50 times a day to be protected.
From GYE Members
- @YS: Realizing that this is an eis ratzon and using it to Daven, changes the way feel. When a tayva overtakes you feel differently. When I use a tefilla, it helps me change a little bit.
- @SmartLakwood - [Use Step 3 if you're feeling overwhelmed], just let go and ask God to take over.
Notes
- Can use the metaphor of תפילת הדרך. Reference sources where this was actually used before going outside...
- Also remember that it's an עת רצון and you can daven for many things that you need.
Research
- Spiritual coping in Urge Specific Strategies (USS) Monti, P.M., Rohsenow, D.J., Swift, R.M., Gulliver, S.B., Colby, S.M., Mueller, T.I., Brown, R.A., Gordon, A., Abrams, D.B., Niaura, R.S., Asher, M.K., 2001. Naltrexone and cue exposure with coping and communication skills training for alcoholics: treatment process and one-year outcomes. Alcohol. Clin. Exp. Res. 25, 1634–1647.
- Marc Galanter, Zoran Josipovic, Helen Dermatis, Jochen Weber & Mary Alice Millard (2017) An initial fMRI study on neural correlates of prayer in members of Alcoholics Anonymous, The American Journal of Drug and Alcohol Abuse, 43:1, 44-54, DOI: 10.3109/00952990.2016.1141912. Summarized in https://www.futurity.org/aa-prayers-cravings-1155402-2/.
- The therapist reviews cognitive coping strategies such as ... meditating or asking for help through prayer or personal dialogue with God or a higher power. Dennis C. Daley;G. Alan Marlatt. Overcoming Your Alcohol or Drug Problem: Effective Recovery Strategies Therapist Guide (Treatments That Work) (Kindle Location 791). Kindle Edition.
- Commandment #1 - Morning Prayer Prayer is something that many sexual addicts find difficult to do, especially if they have been avoiding spirituality because of the shame and guilt of their behavior, or possibly because of what was done to them in the past. Prayer is simply a behavior that, when put in place, can change the addict's disposition. We know from all of the other addictions medical science has studied, that an addiction is basically self will run riot. This expression of addiction simply means "doing your own thing." So the first thing in the morning, put aside time to pray. Don't do your own thing. Do Commandment #1 instead. Weiss, Douglas. Sex Addiction: 6 Types and Treatment (p. 35). Discovery Press. Kindle Edition. See there at length.
- Also see 101 Tips by Weiss Tip 3.
Specs
- Learning Curve: Medium
- Practice: Medium
- Urge Strength: Low, Medium, High
- Customization: None
- Materials: None
- Type: Face it
- Brain Effect: ?
- Easier with Time: Medium
- Editors choice: No