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| + | * Mental Hack #3: Establish Meaningful Connections The reality is this, unwanted pornography viewing is less of an “addiction” and more of a symptom of a lack of connection with others. Delaying to talk with others until you have “fixed” your problem will only maintain your unwanted pornography viewing. Even though it’s scary, connecting with others is the primary antidote to unwanted pornography viewing. ''Staley, Cameron. Beginning Your Life After Pornography: Overcoming Your Struggle with Unwanted Pornography Viewing (p. 11). The Life After Series. Kindle Edition.'' | ||
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** See [https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-secret-to-happiness-heres-some-advice-from-the-longest-running-study-on-happiness-2017100512543 The secret to happiness? Here’s some advice from the longest-running study on happiness]. The Harvard Study has found a strong association between happiness and close relationships like spouses, family, friends, and social circles. “Personal connection creates mental and emotional stimulation, which are automatic mood boosters, while isolation is a mood buster,” says Dr. Waldinger. This is also an opportunity to focus on positive relationships and let go of negative people in your life, or at least minimize your interactions with them. If you need to broaden your social life, try volunteering for a favorite cause. Odds are you will meet more like-minded people. Volunteering also is another way to boost happiness by providing a sense of purpose. | ** See [https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-secret-to-happiness-heres-some-advice-from-the-longest-running-study-on-happiness-2017100512543 The secret to happiness? Here’s some advice from the longest-running study on happiness]. The Harvard Study has found a strong association between happiness and close relationships like spouses, family, friends, and social circles. “Personal connection creates mental and emotional stimulation, which are automatic mood boosters, while isolation is a mood buster,” says Dr. Waldinger. This is also an opportunity to focus on positive relationships and let go of negative people in your life, or at least minimize your interactions with them. If you need to broaden your social life, try volunteering for a favorite cause. Odds are you will meet more like-minded people. Volunteering also is another way to boost happiness by providing a sense of purpose. | ||
Revision as of 09:16, 27 December 2020
What causes addiction? Easy, right? Drugs cause addiction. But maybe it is not that simple. This video is adapted from Johann Hari's New York Times best-selling book 'Chasing The Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs.' For more information, and to take a quiz to see what you know about addiction, go to www.chasingthescream.com. See this video with 17 million views: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8L-0nSYzg&feature=youtu.be (The video is no longer available, it is now available at https://chasingthescream.com/videos).
Research
- Mental Hack #3: Establish Meaningful Connections The reality is this, unwanted pornography viewing is less of an “addiction” and more of a symptom of a lack of connection with others. Delaying to talk with others until you have “fixed” your problem will only maintain your unwanted pornography viewing. Even though it’s scary, connecting with others is the primary antidote to unwanted pornography viewing. Staley, Cameron. Beginning Your Life After Pornography: Overcoming Your Struggle with Unwanted Pornography Viewing (p. 11). The Life After Series. Kindle Edition.
- HO 3:31
- See The secret to happiness? Here’s some advice from the longest-running study on happiness. The Harvard Study has found a strong association between happiness and close relationships like spouses, family, friends, and social circles. “Personal connection creates mental and emotional stimulation, which are automatic mood boosters, while isolation is a mood buster,” says Dr. Waldinger. This is also an opportunity to focus on positive relationships and let go of negative people in your life, or at least minimize your interactions with them. If you need to broaden your social life, try volunteering for a favorite cause. Odds are you will meet more like-minded people. Volunteering also is another way to boost happiness by providing a sense of purpose.
From GYE Members
- Hashem does not expect you do it alone! In fact isolation breads lust as it says in Mishlei לתאוה יבקש נפרד That’s why Hashem gave us this Holy Holy network! @battleworn
References
- ראה בס' מלחמת קודש, גולוב פ"ז סעיף ע"ב בשם אהל ישרים (שער הקדמים): זאת תעשה והנצל [מיצר הרע] שתמיד תהיה רודף אחר גמילות חסדים ולעשות שלום בין אדם לחבירו ולהיות עושה ומעשה ותמיד תהיה עוסק בתורה ובמצוות, וממילא שוב אינך חוטא, וזהו שאמר הכתוב שומר מצוה לא יודע דבר רע, שבזה מתיש כח היצר הרע. עיי"ש עוד במלחמת קודש בהערות.
- הרבי מליובאוויטש זצ"ל, מורה לדור נבוך א/42 :ביחס לשאלה מהי הדרך הטובה ביותר להתגבר על פיתויי היצר? לא לתת לו להתקרב אפילו אל "הצעד הראשון". במילים אחרות כשמופיעה מחשבה בלתי רצויה, לסלק אותה מהמוח מיד. עם זאת מכיון שהמחשה נוטה להשתומם חייבים גם לשלוט עליה. במילים אחרות זה אפשרי לנתק את המוח ממחשבה אחת בלתי רצויה, רק על ידי שמעסיקים אותו במחשבה אחרת. לפיכך כשמופיעה מחשבה בלתי רצויה אדם חייב להתחיל מיד לחשבו אודות דברים טובים, כיצד להביא תועלת לעצמו ולזולת וכדומה. בדרך זאת אדם יכול ללמוד לשמור את מוחו שיהיה עוסק במחשבות טיובות ומועילות בכל הזמנים.
Further reading
- FRC
- The Opposite of Addiction – Connection
- The Opposite of Addiction is Connection (Talks about the 12 Steps and alternative ways of connection).
- Chasing the Scream: The Opposite of Addiction is Connection (Summary of the book)