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=== Accountability === | === Accountability === | ||
| − | Time to take it up a notch. This is where it gets real. You wanna stop but by yourself its too hard. SO hard. Theres this part you that more than anything wants to stop. And theres this other part of you that more than anything wants to do it. THATS OK. This battle is (usually) too hard for one person carry on his own. Thats where accountability comes in. Open up. Speak with rebbe, GYE mentor, or GYE fellow-struggler(me). Go thru ALL your struggles(bec whats the point of holding back) . Every nook and cranny. Be SO honest with your partner that youll be shocked the words are coming out of your mouth, bec in essence it's being honest with yourself. Youd be surprised how exhilarating it feels. To finally open up and lift that weight off your shoulder. A message, a forum, a phone call(Yes I just went there). Just speaking about, putting it out in the open, makes the struggle easier. Build a relationship that you feel responsible to. Gain a friend. A lifelong lifeline. I"m a big fan of this tool so Im going to continue with it next time. #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=60#351370</ref> | + | |
| + | * Time to take it up a notch. This is where it gets real. You wanna stop but by yourself its too hard. SO hard. Theres this part you that more than anything wants to stop. And theres this other part of you that more than anything wants to do it. THATS OK. This battle is (usually) too hard for one person carry on his own. Thats where accountability comes in. Open up. Speak with rebbe, GYE mentor, or GYE fellow-struggler(me). Go thru ALL your struggles(bec whats the point of holding back) . Every nook and cranny. Be SO honest with your partner that youll be shocked the words are coming out of your mouth, bec in essence it's being honest with yourself. Youd be surprised how exhilarating it feels. To finally open up and lift that weight off your shoulder. A message, a forum, a phone call(Yes I just went there). Just speaking about, putting it out in the open, makes the struggle easier. Build a relationship that you feel responsible to. Gain a friend. A lifelong lifeline. I"m a big fan of this tool so Im going to continue with it next time. #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=60#351370</ref> | ||
=== Telling a Friend when you have an Urge === | === Telling a Friend when you have an Urge === | ||
Revision as of 14:40, 8 November 2020
From GYE Members
Get out of Isolation
- Lately I have been phoning/txting/emailing/chatting with other chevra. The Yetzer Horah thrives on isolation. He loves depression. I love shmoozing. i love connection. By communicating with others, I am 'connecting' to them, thereby getting my craving for 'emotional fulfillment' taken care in that way, so there is no room left for the Y"H to convince that his method will make feel good....!!! #Yosef Hatzadik[1]
- My advice to you is stay connected. Post often and read through other forums. Connection, focus, and accountability are real game changers. Hatzlocha b'ezras Hashem #Hashem Help Me[2]
Accountability
- Time to take it up a notch. This is where it gets real. You wanna stop but by yourself its too hard. SO hard. Theres this part you that more than anything wants to stop. And theres this other part of you that more than anything wants to do it. THATS OK. This battle is (usually) too hard for one person carry on his own. Thats where accountability comes in. Open up. Speak with rebbe, GYE mentor, or GYE fellow-struggler(me). Go thru ALL your struggles(bec whats the point of holding back) . Every nook and cranny. Be SO honest with your partner that youll be shocked the words are coming out of your mouth, bec in essence it's being honest with yourself. Youd be surprised how exhilarating it feels. To finally open up and lift that weight off your shoulder. A message, a forum, a phone call(Yes I just went there). Just speaking about, putting it out in the open, makes the struggle easier. Build a relationship that you feel responsible to. Gain a friend. A lifelong lifeline. I"m a big fan of this tool so Im going to continue with it next time. #battle-of-the-gen[3]
Telling a Friend when you have an Urge
- #Dov writes nicely why it is OK to share. See Dov.
- Pick up the phone and call a chaver (who agrees to do this) and graphically tell him what you want to see or do. If done in a clinical, non triggering fashion, I have found the "attack" gets killed on the spot. When verbalized, it sounds so grotesque and inappropriate, that the thrill has its balloon busted. #Hashem Help Me[4]
- ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/80197-getting-the-urge-OUT-of-your-head-the-thread#80238
- ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/353175-I-don%E2%80%99t-get-it#353177
- ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=60#351370
- ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/356766-Lust-counterattack#356804