Sexual Boundary Plan

THE SEXUAL BOUNDARY PLAN:

Sexual boundary plans are created for several reasons—helping addicts to understand the nature of their addiction and to define their personal version of sexual sobriety, identifying “slippery” areas to watch out for, and providing addicts with guidance when they are triggered and unsure of what to do next.

Many sex addicts carry printed or digitized versions of their boundary plan with them at all times. That way, if/when addicts feel triggered, they can look at their inner boundary and see that a particular behavior is prohibited. More important, they can look at the outer boundary and find a handy list of alternative activities.

For most sex addicts, even a quick glance at certain outer boundary items—“re-earn the respect and trust of my wife and kids,” for instance—is enough to halt the addictive cycle.