Escape

This strategy is about leaving the tempting situation immediately if possible. This can then be follow by one of the other strategies.

Research

• Since it’s impossible to totally avoid all exposure to images that can stimulate your desire for porn, your best bet is to have a strategy to shut it out as quickly as possible … Hank uses what he calls an “eye bounce” whenever he unexpectedly encounters porn images or materials that remind him of porn. Maltz, Wendy. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography (p. 175). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
  • Get away from porn thoughts and materials. Once you are aware that you’re in a Relapse Zone, take immediate action to create as much distance as you can between yourself and porn. If you had been thinking about using porn, focus your thinking on something else. Keep your distance from sources of porn. If you’re at a computer, turn it off and walk away from it. If you’re watching television, change channels, turn it off, or get up and leave the room. Take a walk, call a friend, listen to music, spend time in nature…do whatever it takes to shift your consciousness away from porn. Maltz, Wendy. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography (p. 196). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
• Escape - Get away from the urge-provoking situation. If you find yourself there, leave immediately. SMART Handbook p. 32, Basic Strategies #2.
• Reference: “Escaping the situation” is listed as an effective strategy in Peele. 7 Tools to Beat Addiction p. 121, quoting Saul Shiffman.
  • The following urge-specific coping strategies were chosen based on previous literature as most likely to be effective in urge coping and to be applicable immediately after experiencing an urge. […] Escape and avoidance are the best strategies to use [… but] we point out that it is useful to have as many tools in their toolbox as possible, in case they get into a situation that is harder to handle […] We ask clients to try out all these tools and see for themselves which ones work best. (We have also taught urge-reduction imagery (Marlatt & Gordon, 1985), mastery statements, and cognitive distraction. However, those strategies were not correlated with drinking outcome, whereas the ones below were associated with reduced drinking (Monti, Rohsenow, Rubonis, Niaura, Sirota, Colby, Goddard, & Abrams, 1993; Rohsenow et al., 2001))^[1] Passive Delay and Delay as a Cognitive Strategy / Negative Consequences of Drinking / Positive Consequences of Sobriety, Alternative Food or Drink / Alternative Behaviors  Monti, P. M. (2002). Treating alcohol dependence : a coping skills training guide. Guilford Press. p. 145-7.

From GYE Members

• Last night was very, very tough. My wife had to go out shopping, which would have been a great time for me to act out previously. I won't say I wasn't tempted, but I looked at my personal printout of my 90 day chart and that helped a bit. Still the Y"H kept tempting me, so I literally ran into the Sukkah (even though it was raining) and sat there studying Mishna Sukkah until my wife came home. I can't say I completely lost all desire to act out, but it certainly worked for me this time. #Moshe ben Avraham

• ...Stepping out of the room and praying for 10 seconds if inappropriate content appears on my screen, no matter how it got there. #B'ahava