Disclosure

References

• 5.5 Navigating the minefield of facilitated disclosure - Strategies, techniques and potential pitfalls by Stefanie Carnes in Birchard, T., & Benfield, J. (Eds.). (2017). Routledge International Handbook of Sexual Addiction. Routledge International Handbooks. (Describes the full, very complicated process. Main points each spouse should have a therapist, addict should have be in recovery, and have a support network, both marriage partners should be committed to the marriage and much more.)
  • Book: Schneider, J.P. and Corley, M.D. (2012) Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, To Whom, and How Much to Reveal , Tucson, AZ: Recovery Resources Press.
  • Book: Schneider, J.P. and Corley, M.D. (2012) Disclosing Secrets: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of intimate Trust , Tucson, AZ: Recovery Resources Press.
• We suggest that newcomers to Sexaholics Anonymous not reveal their sexual past to a spouse or family member who does not already know of it, without careful consideration and a period of sexual sobriety, and even then, only after prior discussion with an SA sponsor or group. Typically, when we come into the program, we want to share our excitement with those closest to us and tell all right away. Such disclosures might injure our family or others and should be confined to the group of which we are a part until a wise course is indicated. Of course, if there is any chance we have put others in danger, we take immediate steps to try to correct that. Few things can so damage the possibility of healing in the family as a premature confession to spouse or family where sacred bonds and trust have been violated. Unwittingly, such confessions can be attempts on our part to dump our guilt, get back into good graces, or make just another show of willpower. Great caution is advised here. Amends to family must begin with a sexually sober, changed attitude and behavior on a daily basis. Then, as we grow in recovery, we will find how to make direct amends. Help from sponsor and group is indispensable here. There's always a way, if we really want to make things right. Literature, SA. Sexaholics Anonymous: White Book (pp. 8-9). Kindle Edition.