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* DAILY CHIZUK. I think this is HUGE. So much of the battle of GYE/porn/mast is done consciously, but so much of it is subconsciously. It's just the natural stirring of the mind that makes you really wanna jerk off, and eventually you just really need to do it. Daily chizuk, imo helps on both fonts. It obviously helps on the conscious level- on days that were struggling and feeling weak, it gives us that boost to get at it. But I'd like to venture to say that even on clean days or seemingly easy days, that you feel like you don't need the chizuk, that daily dose has its affect sub consciously and helps keep those stirrings at bay. It makes it harder for that beast in you to rear its head. I may be wrong, but this is what I think. #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=15#350614</ref>
 
* DAILY CHIZUK. I think this is HUGE. So much of the battle of GYE/porn/mast is done consciously, but so much of it is subconsciously. It's just the natural stirring of the mind that makes you really wanna jerk off, and eventually you just really need to do it. Daily chizuk, imo helps on both fonts. It obviously helps on the conscious level- on days that were struggling and feeling weak, it gives us that boost to get at it. But I'd like to venture to say that even on clean days or seemingly easy days, that you feel like you don't need the chizuk, that daily dose has its affect sub consciously and helps keep those stirrings at bay. It makes it harder for that beast in you to rear its head. I may be wrong, but this is what I think. #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=15#350614</ref>
 
* The YH is constantly upgrading and refreshing his attacks, so we gotta do the same. Daily chizuk keeps us fresh and our head in the right direction. SO crucial because after a while of being clean, sometimes we forget how bad our falls can be. Gotta keep that daily juice. (Also my pointer from yesterday) GYE has many tools for chizuk from the forums(such amazing people) to Q and As etc Just one point which seems important, better to read a small amount and focus to internalize that rather than a bunch of things. Thinking deeply on one small thing can have a longer and stronger effect.  #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=30#350649</ref>
 
* The YH is constantly upgrading and refreshing his attacks, so we gotta do the same. Daily chizuk keeps us fresh and our head in the right direction. SO crucial because after a while of being clean, sometimes we forget how bad our falls can be. Gotta keep that daily juice. (Also my pointer from yesterday) GYE has many tools for chizuk from the forums(such amazing people) to Q and As etc Just one point which seems important, better to read a small amount and focus to internalize that rather than a bunch of things. Thinking deeply on one small thing can have a longer and stronger effect.  #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=30#350649</ref>
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* If you wear glasses and are courageous enough to remove them, do so. Before you go outside, daven to Hashem that He protect you. If you do see something triggering, remind yourself that you did not see a toy, but rather a real live person who has bills to pay, may not feel well, and no one has any right to "use" her for their fantasies. [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/334915-This-is-going-to-be-the-time-I-get-to-90!#335037 #HashemHelpme]
  
 
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Revision as of 11:05, 19 November 2020

From GYE Members

Importance

  • Guarding your eyes is the foundation of every tool. Without it, the building is going to fall. Not doing so is feeding the lust(and the more you feed it, the hungrier it gets). #battle-of-the-gen[1]

Looking Away

  • When I am in the street and I see something, I know that I need to find something else to look at immediately, no questions asked. Then when the urge comes to have a second look I try to take a few deep breaths and think about what will happen if I don't look again. It's sometimes hard to look away but I won't have to look at the sidewalk forever, as with most things, gam zeh ya'avor. This is not very difficult when I am strong, but when I am in a lustful state or feeling down emotionally it's very difficult to put up the fight. When I am seeking, and then I see something, it's like "mazal tov I can now feed this monster..." obviously makes it that much harder to look away. For this the only thing that works for me is to decide before I go out that even though I am not feeling my best, this is yehoreg v'al ya'avor, this takes priority. It doesn't always work but nothing else has worked better. #wilnevergiveup[2]
  • There is a saying here. The first look is on G-d the second look is on you. #Hakolhevel[3]
  • As for walking in the street, I'v found if you ignore and dont linger on a sight, it cant control you. If you're in a pretty bad part of the neighborhood (e.x. Manhattan) then try to walk looking down, yeah yeah "I look so stupid", "that's not for me, thats for the big Gedolim". Say whatever you want but it works #Meyer M.[4]

Davening for the Person

  • My favorite tool for getting the thoughts out of my head is ignoring them. I have discovered that I really am the ba'al habos of my head...sometimes. If that' does not work, I make sure to try and do the diametric opposite of whatever my lust is: Meaning, instead of worshipping or sexually devouring the person or image or whatever, I pause and pray (with actual spoken words, in private) for the person or institution involved me'umka deliba as best I am able right then. Not for them to 'finally see the light and stop being so provocative or promiscuous` - that judgementalism poisons me no matter how much my morality agrees with it. It is more than useless. Rather, I daven that Hashem should give them health and comfort in this life and whatever is afterward, and that He grant them a progressive awareness of Him and of all the good in their lives, and that He give them clarity in how all the good in their lives comes from Him, and that he even grants them acceptance that all the hard times they may have in their long futures is a gift from Him somehow, and that they also have peace of mind to really do right by themselves and by G-d. Then I may ask for all the same for me: Health, Comfort, Progressive awareness of Him in my life, and Peace of mind.[5]
  • I also tried the davening approach; so I prayed for her, but I was praying that she and I would be holding hands by the Kosel (thru the mechitzah of course), both of us fervently praying that this relationship should last.[6]

Daily Chizuk

  • DAILY CHIZUK. I think this is HUGE. So much of the battle of GYE/porn/mast is done consciously, but so much of it is subconsciously. It's just the natural stirring of the mind that makes you really wanna jerk off, and eventually you just really need to do it. Daily chizuk, imo helps on both fonts. It obviously helps on the conscious level- on days that were struggling and feeling weak, it gives us that boost to get at it. But I'd like to venture to say that even on clean days or seemingly easy days, that you feel like you don't need the chizuk, that daily dose has its affect sub consciously and helps keep those stirrings at bay. It makes it harder for that beast in you to rear its head. I may be wrong, but this is what I think. #battle-of-the-gen[7]
  • The YH is constantly upgrading and refreshing his attacks, so we gotta do the same. Daily chizuk keeps us fresh and our head in the right direction. SO crucial because after a while of being clean, sometimes we forget how bad our falls can be. Gotta keep that daily juice. (Also my pointer from yesterday) GYE has many tools for chizuk from the forums(such amazing people) to Q and As etc Just one point which seems important, better to read a small amount and focus to internalize that rather than a bunch of things. Thinking deeply on one small thing can have a longer and stronger effect. #battle-of-the-gen[8]

From GYE Members

  • If you wear glasses and are courageous enough to remove them, do so. Before you go outside, daven to Hashem that He protect you. If you do see something triggering, remind yourself that you did not see a toy, but rather a real live person who has bills to pay, may not feel well, and no one has any right to "use" her for their fantasies. #HashemHelpme
  1. ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts#350369
  2. ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/356766-Lust-counterattack#356796
  3. ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=30#350652
  4. ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=30#350694
  5. ↑ #Dov - Excerpt from https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/80197-getting-the-urge-OUT-of-your-head-the-thread#104007
  6. ↑ #Trouble - https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/330962-Mickey-Mouse-Approach#330962
  7. ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=15#350614
  8. ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=30#350649
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