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	See also [[Mantras]], [[FRC]].		See also [[Mantras]], [[FRC]].

		+	== Reference ==
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		+	* A most important tactic for rescuing behavior from an undesirable automatic condition is to '''insert new antecedents at the very time the old antecedents are about to begin their work.''' Self-speech antecedents are particularly useful when the “automatic” cue is also self-directed language. For example, you might stop saying to yourself, “I can’t resist eating this,” and say instead, “I can resist this.” Watson David L., T. R. G. (2013). Self-Directed Behavior: Self-Modification for Personal Adjustment. Cengage Learning.
		+	* https://www.choosehelp.com/topics/mental-health/rehab-for-patients-with-mental-health-challenges
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		+	== Examples ==
	'''Coping / Mastery Statements'''		'''Coping / Mastery Statements'''

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−	''Positive affirmations''	+	''Positive affirmations. This can also be called "Talk to yourself".''

	See also [[Mantras]], [[FRC]].		See also [[Mantras]], [[FRC]].

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 * Recognize that it's ''possible'' not to give in. Think: "I don't ''need'' to do this".  —Condeo
 * "I can handle this, the urge will pass soon"
 Here's another bunch from A Workbook for Overcoming Addictions (Horvath):

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 * "I can do it". —Hester & Miller p. 228
 * “Yes, I can.” (Remind yourself in no uncertain terms that you have resisted successfully many times before. Affirm your resilience.)  —Changeology
-* Think "I don't ''need'' to do this".  —Condeo
+* Recognize that it's ''possible'' not to give in. Think: "I don't ''need'' to do this".  —Condeo
 * "I can handle this, the urge will pass soon"

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	See also [[Mantras]], [[FRC]].		See also [[Mantras]], [[FRC]].

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 * “Yes, I can.” (Remind yourself in no uncertain terms that you have resisted successfully many times before. Affirm your resilience.)  —Changeology
 * Think "I don't ''need'' to do this".  —Condeo
 Here's another bunch from A Workbook for Overcoming Addictions (Horvath):
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 In The Battle of the Generation Ch. 32 he elaborates on what he thinks is the most powerful phrase:
 * "I don't do that"
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 * This urge is super uncomfortable, but it's not unbearable. I'm not gonna die from it. It will soon go away... and I'll feel great about myself for resisting.
 * Let me just focus on today. I can stay clean one day / hour / minute / at a time.
 How to use this technique: Choose or compose a statement based on the ideas above and tell it to yourself next time you have urge. You can memorize it, or write down somewhere and keep it handy.

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		+	See also [[Mantras]].
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	'''Coping / Mastery Statements'''		'''Coping / Mastery Statements'''

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	* @YS: The uncomfortable painful feeling when u have an urge. Feel that the yetzer hara inside you is dying within you.		* @YS: The uncomfortable painful feeling when u have an urge. Feel that the yetzer hara inside you is dying within you.
		+	* No Pain No Gain - See [[Attitude Principles for Lust Struggles\|GYE Handbook]] Attitude Principles #5
		+	* The pain we feel when not looking is HEALING pain, like the pain from surgery. The pain is healing us. On the other hand, the spiritual pain of looking is the pain of the disease getting worse. Which pain do we choose? - GYE Handbook, [[Progressive Tools for Breaking Free]]
		+	** The pain we feel when not looking is not really '''''our''''' pain at all. It is the pain of the Yetzer Hara in his "death throes". He is screaming that we are hitting him hard. So we can actually enjoy the pain! We are feeling the pain of our enemy as he gets weaker! ''Ibid''

	== The Battle of the Generation ==		== The Battle of the Generation ==

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	* Aside from God, torah and mitzvos, i suddenly remembered something else, and thats what gave me the strength to hold my horses for a moment. I remembered 'one piece' cartoon series and the great swords-man Roronoa Zoro. [For those who isn't familiar with the series, i won't recommend it. Its a long and time consuming saga with too little good content to learn from. But for those who did watch it, i think it may give some chizuk and yeah, sometimes cartoons can teach us a good thing or two :] Actually anything we experience is there for a reason (since we have Hashgacha Pratit).] So Zoro's character is definitely the strongest among all the super powered heroes that showing up there by the dozens. Yes, he is just a man, but what makes him the strongest is his resolve. It doesn't matter how hopeless his cause would seem, no matter how many times he falls or how many wounds he would receive, he would stubbornly go on, become stronger, fight harder, and eventually win. You cant beat a man like that. I definitely wish i had a willpower like that. And so i thought, still half asleep "it doesn't matter that right now my cause seems so stupid, hopeless, idiotic and frustratingly frustrating to me. I dont care. I DONT CARE!!! If i decided, I will go on. I wont give in. I will not break my resolve, because thats who i wanna be. A fighter." thats what i thought, and B"H, the lust attack passed in a few moments. I won this time. My moto from now on is: never give up. Never stop fighting, whatever is your way, whatever tools you have to use, Head on or under and over it, Hashem is with us. He gives us power. He won't leave us, and eventually we WILL become the MASTERS of the yetzer hara. We will prevail! Be like zoro :] !!!!FIGHT!!!!! [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/321741-FIGHTING-progress!#321882 @Ftndrug]		* Aside from God, torah and mitzvos, i suddenly remembered something else, and thats what gave me the strength to hold my horses for a moment. I remembered 'one piece' cartoon series and the great swords-man Roronoa Zoro. [For those who isn't familiar with the series, i won't recommend it. Its a long and time consuming saga with too little good content to learn from. But for those who did watch it, i think it may give some chizuk and yeah, sometimes cartoons can teach us a good thing or two :] Actually anything we experience is there for a reason (since we have Hashgacha Pratit).] So Zoro's character is definitely the strongest among all the super powered heroes that showing up there by the dozens. Yes, he is just a man, but what makes him the strongest is his resolve. It doesn't matter how hopeless his cause would seem, no matter how many times he falls or how many wounds he would receive, he would stubbornly go on, become stronger, fight harder, and eventually win. You cant beat a man like that. I definitely wish i had a willpower like that. And so i thought, still half asleep "it doesn't matter that right now my cause seems so stupid, hopeless, idiotic and frustratingly frustrating to me. I dont care. I DONT CARE!!! If i decided, I will go on. I wont give in. I will not break my resolve, because thats who i wanna be. A fighter." thats what i thought, and B"H, the lust attack passed in a few moments. I won this time. My moto from now on is: never give up. Never stop fighting, whatever is your way, whatever tools you have to use, Head on or under and over it, Hashem is with us. He gives us power. He won't leave us, and eventually we WILL become the MASTERS of the yetzer hara. We will prevail! Be like zoro :] !!!!FIGHT!!!!! [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/321741-FIGHTING-progress!#321882 @Ftndrug]
		+	'''It's healthy Pain'''
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		+	* @YS: The uncomfortable painful feeling when u have an urge. Feel that the yetzer hara inside you is dying within you.

	== The Battle of the Generation ==		== The Battle of the Generation ==