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-Some guys join GuardYourEyes when they are highly motivated to change. Others have mixed feelings about their behavior, while others want to see if they can cut back on their pornography watching from 15 hours a week to something more reasonable, like 13 or 14 hours. Kidding!
+== Research ==
+“It is now clear that enhancing client motivation for change is an important part of therapist’s responsibility, perhaps even “job number one” - the most important task in treatment”.)  ''Hester & Miller (2003), Handbook of Alcoholism Treatment Approaches, Ch. 6. (page 131)''
-That’s what motivation sounds like.
+WHAT IS MOTIVATION? (“it was once common within the alcohol treatment field to think of motivation as an attribute of the client, a personal characteristic or state. In this view, the person comes into treatment already possessing a certain level of motivation…) / SHIFTS IN THINKING / High Bottoms / Influence of the environment / The Transtheoretical Model of Change (=Stages of Change) / Motivation Interventions...A NEW PERSPECTIVE / Stages of Change and the Tasks of Counseling ...  ''Hester & Miller (2003), Handbook of Alcoholism Treatment Approaches, Ch. 6. (page 131)''
-Motivation is about saying I’m gonna make this a high priority in my life right now for the next few weeks at least, that I’m committed to getting this done..
+Too often people make an impulsive decision to stop without first carefully considering all the motivational factors involved; as a result, commitment may be weak and short-lived. Those of us in the treatment field need to pay greater attention to the motivation and commitment stage of change in order to improve the “readiness” of clients to embark upon a specific program of change. Unless the ground is firmly prepared and one’s commitment to change is solid and based on sound decision making, premature commitment may lead to self defeating experiences of failure and a reluctance to commit oneself to the change process. ''Marlatt and Gordon (1985), Relapse Prevention, p 22.''
-It’s really hard to summon the energy needed to change an ingrained behavior if you’re not even sure it’s worth the effort. That’s why increasing your motivation is an important first step.
+Let's face it. Recovery from addiction is not an easy task. In fact, change of any sort is usually somewhat stressful and uncomfortable. Whether or not someone attempts natural recovery or gets help, "something" must change. In other words, "something" must cause them to move away from addiction and toward recovery. That "something" is the motivation to change.  Throughout this topic center on addiction, we have stressed that recovery is fundamentally about the motivation to change. At some point in every addicted person's life, there comes a moment when they realize they need to change. The difference between those who successfully make the needed changes, and those who do not, comes down to motivation.  ...Once sufficiently motivated, people can and do change. Most of us recognize that change is not an event that suddenly occurs. Rather, it is a process that gradually unfolds over time. As this process begins to unfold, a person's motivation changes. ''Motivation for Change: The Stages of Change Model A. Tom Horvath, Ph.D., ABPP, Kaushik Misra, Ph.D., Amy K. Epner, Ph.D., and Galen Morgan Cooper, Ph.D.''
-And even when you feel passionate about changing, that feeling can still ebb and flow like the tide. The path is unpredictable. You can be excited about quitting one day, and indifferent about it the next. However, without true passion and desire, you likely won’t make any long-lasting changes to your behavior.
+The key to quitting an addiction is motivation, along with a belief in the possibility of succeeding—these factors are essential whether quitting addiction with, or without, treatment. ''(Brad W. Lundahl, Chelsea Kunz, Cynthia Brownell et al., “A Meta-Analysis of Motivational Interviewing: Twenty-Five Years of Empirical Studies,” Research on Social Work Practice 20(2):137–160, 2010.) Peele, Stanton. Recover!: Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life with The PERFECT Program (p. 13). Da Capo Press. Kindle Edition.''
-As you’ve seen in the previous chapter, change isn’t something you do with the flick of a switch. It’s never easy. Changing behavior is a project, it’s a journey. And therefore, you need to be able to set aside the time and energy to deal with it.
+However, although tipping points may appear precipitously, most often their role is not to create new motivation out of thin air, but rather to activate latent motivation or resolve ambivalence. ''DiClemente, Carlo C.. Addiction and Change, Second Edition: How Addictions Develop and Addicted People Recover (Guilford Substance Abuse) (p. 174). Guilford Publications. Kindle Edition.''
 == Sustaining Motivation ==
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 == Tools ==
-* [[Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA)|Cost Benefit Analysis]], also known as Decisional Balance
+*[[Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA)|Cost Benefit Analysis]], also known as Decisional Balance
-* [[Tool: Exploring Your Values|Exploring Your Values]]
+*[[Tool: Exploring Your Values|Exploring Your Values]]
-* [[Exploring Your Roles]]
+*[[Exploring Your Roles]]
-* [[Motivational Boosters|Additional Tools]]
+*[[Motivational Boosters|Additional Tools]]
-* [[Self Worth]]
+*[[Self Worth]]
 == Torah Sources ==
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 == GYE Boosts ==
-* [https://gyeboost.org/archives/175 The Importance of Kedusha by Rav Ephraim Wachsman] - Discusses how this struggle is the FOUNDATION of our entire spiritual structure. (Causes lack of ''geshmak'' in davening, depression)
+*[https://gyeboost.org/archives/175 The Importance of Kedusha by Rav Ephraim Wachsman] - Discusses how this struggle is the FOUNDATION of our entire spiritual structure. (Causes lack of ''geshmak'' in davening, depression)
-* [https://gyeboost.org/archives/20 Making it Real by Rabbi Efraim Stauber] - Rabbi Efraim Stauber speaks about how a real relationship with Hashem will help us stay strong when faced with challenges in Shmiras Einayim and other areas.
+*[https://gyeboost.org/archives/20 Making it Real by Rabbi Efraim Stauber] - Rabbi Efraim Stauber speaks about how a real relationship with Hashem will help us stay strong when faced with challenges in Shmiras Einayim and other areas.
-* [https://gyeboost.org/archives/88 What's wrong with pornography?] Rabbi Mordechai Becher shares insights into what Tumah really means. (A bit theoretical, but interesting)
+*[https://gyeboost.org/archives/88 What's wrong with pornography?] Rabbi Mordechai Becher shares insights into what Tumah really means. (A bit theoretical, but interesting)
-* [https://gyeboost.org/archives/407 SATAN BEFORE AND AFTER - PSHAT 2] by Rabbi Yitzchak Feigenbaum
+*[https://gyeboost.org/archives/407 SATAN BEFORE AND AFTER - PSHAT 2] by Rabbi Yitzchak Feigenbaum
-* [https://gyeboost.org/archives/550 MINING DIAMONDS by Rabbi Chanan Gordon]
+*[https://gyeboost.org/archives/550 MINING DIAMONDS by Rabbi Chanan Gordon]
 <references />
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	We’ll try to make this journey as smooth as possible, and we’ll make sure that your investment will pay off; but you still need to be ready to devote the time and the energy for it, make it your top priority, or at least one of your top 2 priorities, so that you give this goal the proper attention.		We’ll try to make this journey as smooth as possible, and we’ll make sure that your investment will pay off; but you still need to be ready to devote the time and the energy for it, make it your top priority, or at least one of your top 2 priorities, so that you give this goal the proper attention.
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		+	== Sustaining Motivation ==
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		+	* See [[The Battle of the Generation]] Ch. 26 (Making it last. Every time we get inspired, it makes a subtle impression upon our essence. Over time, these impressions accumulate and turn us into the person we want to be. • Inspiration fades over time, but we can keep it strong by reviewing material that gets us excited every day. • Another way to make motivation last longer is to act on it to win battles with excitement. • We can also strengthen these feelings by building determination to win.)

	== Tools ==		== Tools ==

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	* Key motivating factor is how hard it may be the rest of your life if you dont do these 90 days. "better 90 days than 90 years" #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=45#350914</ref>		* Key motivating factor is how hard it may be the rest of your life if you dont do these 90 days. "better 90 days than 90 years" #battle-of-the-gen<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/350138-Diary-and-thoughts?limit=15&start=45#350914</ref>
		+	* For motivation, '''I just really wanted to win'''. I was sick of losing. I was shocked that I had fallen the last time, and told myself and G-d that I was done. This has been a goal for way too long, and I don't care if the battle gets hard, I will win! I'll plan ahead, write battle plans, and will win this once and for all! Thank G-d, that came out to be true so far! '''Motivation can actually take you really far!''' I really hope to continue this amazing progress, going from milestone to milestone, and have an opportunity to successfully help other people in this area. [[How I reached 90 days\|@Anonymous]]

	=== Long term pleasure vs. Short term pleasure ===		=== Long term pleasure vs. Short term pleasure ===

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 === Limits of Motivation ===
 * There's a quote I once read. 'You don't need motivation, you need discipline.' I believe the idea is as follows. It starts with motivation; i have to want to change. And I have to ''really want'' to change. But then, even when we really want to change, sometimes we just don't feel the motivation. We feel drained, tired and fed up. And then we chas veshalom, act out. This is where discipline comes in. We have to stick to our set tasks / goals even when we no longer want to. Or at least, even when we no longer feel like we want to. We don't want to, but we do it anyway. The motivation ebbs and wanes, but the discipline we have must never change. I write this like its easy, but I'm working on it myself. Even as I write this, I'm kind of under an attack of lust. I know that I want to be good, but I almost don't care. And that's when I have to apply discipline - I will fight and stay clean, no matter what. #Im Tevakshena Kakasef<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/353175-I-don%E2%80%99t-get-it?limit=15&start=30#353733</ref>
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 * [[Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA)|Cost Benefit Analysis]], also known as Decisional Balance
 * [[Tool: Exploring Your Values|Exploring Your Values]]
 * [[Motivational Boosters|Additional Tools]]
 * [[Self Worth]]

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		+	=== Making it a priority ===
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		+	* I have always been battling but now is the first time i realize i really have to step it up and battle on a high level. #The Bruceman

	=== Reasons to Quit ===		=== Reasons to Quit ===

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+Some guys join GuardYourEyes when they are highly motivated to change. Others have mixed feelings about their behavior, while others want to see if they can cut back on their pornography watching from 15 hours a week to something more reasonable, like 13 or 14 hours. Kidding!
 On the one hand you really want to stop, but there’s another part of you that really likes it the way it is. Often having these conflicting feelings can leave you feeling stuck.
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 Going cold turkey before you’re sufficiently motivated doesn’t usually work for very long, even if you know exactly what you need to do to stop, because some days you just wonder if it’s worth the bother.
-A lot of people tell me, “I got an urge and I just said forget it.”
+A lot of people say, “I got an urge and I just said forget it.”
 Motivation is always the key, the foundation of everything we do. Motivation is about getting clear on what you really want deep inside, and being ready to say, “I’m gonna go for it!” “I’m gonna do this”. Not, “I want to do it”, not “I wish I can do it”, but I really ''will'' do it. I’m gonna quit. I’m gonna change.”
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 As you’ve seen in the previous chapter, change isn’t something you do with the flick of a switch. It’s never easy. Changing behavior is a project, it’s a journey. And therefore, you need to be able to set aside the time and energy to deal with it.
-We’ll try to make this journey  as smooth as possible, and we’ll make sure that your investment will pay off; but you still need to be ready to devote the time and the energy for it, make it your top priority, or at least one of your top 2 priorities, so that you give this goal the proper attention. </blockquote>
+We’ll try to make this journey  as smooth as possible, and we’ll make sure that your investment will pay off; but you still need to be ready to devote the time and the energy for it, make it your top priority, or at least one of your top 2 priorities, so that you give this goal the proper attention.
 === Fear of Missing Out ===