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 Imagine vividly how continued porn usage (for example) and it’s side effects will impact your relationship with your spouse, your children and your career. Imagine the lost opportunities of actualizing your most cherished dreams and life goals because porn has embezzled your time and focus.
-Then once your're done, imagine how it might feel if you quit. Would you feel much happier? Would you feel more confident? Would you take on new goals? Would it have a positive impact on other areas of your life? Would your relationship improve?
+Then once you're done, imagine how it might feel if you quit. Would you feel much happier? Would you feel more confident? Would you take on new goals? Would it have a positive impact on other areas of your life? Would your relationship improve?
 Often the reason we don't change is because we focus on the short term vs. the long term. The problems we'll have later in life due to watching porn seem too far away. This exercise can help us feel these consequences more vividly and arouse your emotions. One our emotions are aroused, we might feel ready to finally quit.
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 * Psychological Dependency - Another exercise from 101 Freedom Exercises crystallizes what a sex addict gets out of his addiction from a psychological aspect. Here’s the exercise: Write a thank you letter and a good-bye letter to your sex addiction. ''Weiss, Douglas. Sex Addiction: 6 Types and Treatment (p. 44). Discovery Press. Kindle Edition.''  (See there for details)
-* Example from GYE member: Sample from a GYE member: I am making a rational and thought out decision to stop watching fantasizing, watching p***, and m******.Even though I will not be able to use this as an escape or for excitement, or to relieve my sexual desires when I desperately feel the need to [fill in the rest of the benefits].The reason I want to stop is because these benefits are not worth the downsides of this habit which are, the serious aveirah that I'm oiver each time I act out and the feelings of hypocrisy and lack of self discipline that I feel [fill in the rest of the reasons to stop] due to this behavior. Therefore I choose to commit myself to the plan in order to help me control myself.]
+* Example from GYE member: Sample from a GYE member: I am making a rational and thought out decision to stop watching fantasizing, watching p***, and m******.Even though I will not be able to use this as an escape or for excitement, or to relieve my sexual desires when I desperately feel the need to [fill in the rest of the benefits].The reason I want to stop is because these benefits are not worth the downsides of this habit which are, the serious aveirah that I'm oiver each time I act out and the feelings of hypocrisy and lack of self discipline that I feel [fill in the rest of the reasons to stop] due to this behavior. Therefore I choose to commit myself to the plan in order to help me control myself.] Note: This is really more related to a Commitment Worksheet.
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	* Psychological Dependency - Another exercise from 101 Freedom Exercises crystallizes what a sex addict gets out of his addiction from a psychological aspect. Here’s the exercise: Write a thank you letter and a good-bye letter to your sex addiction. ''Weiss, Douglas. Sex Addiction: 6 Types and Treatment (p. 44). Discovery Press. Kindle Edition.'' (See there for details)		* Psychological Dependency - Another exercise from 101 Freedom Exercises crystallizes what a sex addict gets out of his addiction from a psychological aspect. Here’s the exercise: Write a thank you letter and a good-bye letter to your sex addiction. ''Weiss, Douglas. Sex Addiction: 6 Types and Treatment (p. 44). Discovery Press. Kindle Edition.'' (See there for details)
		+	* Example from GYE member: Sample from a GYE member: I am making a rational and thought out decision to stop watching fantasizing, watching p*, and m****.Even though I will not be able to use this as an escape or for excitement, or to relieve my sexual desires when I desperately feel the need to [fill in the rest of the benefits].The reason I want to stop is because these benefits are not worth the downsides of this habit which are, the serious aveirah that I'm oiver each time I act out and the feelings of hypocrisy and lack of self discipline that I feel [fill in the rest of the reasons to stop] due to this behavior. Therefore I choose to commit myself to the plan in order to help me control myself.]

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	The most fundamental tools are the [[Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA)]], and [[Tool: Exploring Your Values\|Exploring Values]] and Roles. This thread will discuss some lesser known techniques that can help you make a decision.		The most fundamental tools are the [[Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA)]], and [[Tool: Exploring Your Values\|Exploring Values]] and Roles. This thread will discuss some lesser known techniques that can help you make a decision.
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		+	See also [[Step_One_Worksheet]]

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 Write a goodbye letter to your problem or old way of being. Put your heart into the letter. Explain the harm that porn has caused you and others and then how leaving it will improve your life. --Changeology
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 * [[Halachic Background|Learn the Halachos]]
 * Read The [[The Battle of the Generation|Battle of the Generation]] Ch. 1-10.
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 * If you want to dig deeper check out the book “[https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XKKMQ24/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 The Porn Myth]”, a non-religious response to pro-pornography arguments. A book exposing the reality behind the fantasy of pornography. The book draws on the experience of porn performers and users, and the expertise of neurologists, sociologists, and psychologists to demonstrate that pornography is destructive to individuals, relationships, and society. The Porn Myth is available at Amazon.com.
 * You can also have a look at the sefer Zos Brisi for Torah reasons to maintain kedusha. When reading such materials, remember your goal right now isn’t to feel guilty about the past, but to reflect on what you truly want of the future. Facing the truth is uncomfortable, but during the that are considering a change (the contemplation stage) it can help you clarify the (pros and) cons of your behavior and help you decide what you really want. The Hebrew version of Zos Brisi is [https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/zos-brisi available for free], and the English version can be purchased on [https://www.amazon.com/Sefer-Zos-Brisi-Guidance-Kedushah/dp/1680250078 Amazon].
-* Learn about the ''issur'' of ''hirhur'', ''histaklus'' and ''hashchosas zera'' in the Talmudic Encyclopedia''.''
+* [[Halachic Background|Learn the Halachos]]
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