Nocturnal Emissions - Revision history

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Torah Sources (the lenient approach)

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How to avoid

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Additional Sources

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Additional Sources

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	For more sources see [[Rav Shlomo Wolbe]]		For more sources see [[Rav Shlomo Wolbe]]
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		+	=== The Lubavitcher Rebbe ===
		+	'''ח'רמב - שלילת אמירת תהלים בכדי למנוע מקרה לילה'''
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		+	ב"ה, כ' מ"ח, תשכ"ב
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		+	[...]
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		+	ולכתבו אודות ענין הידוע, ואשר אומר תהלים לפני השינה.
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		+	כמדומה כבר כתבתי לו, שעצה היעוצה בכגון זה הוא היסח הדעת, והיסח הדעת אינו ענין של מלחמה עם המחשבה לא טובה אלא להסיח הדעת מזה ולהעסיק את המחשבה בענין אחר ומה טוב באותיות התורה ותפלה, שאם מעט אור דוחה הרבה חשך עאכו"כ הרבה אור, '''והרי האמירה האמורה - שאומר תהלים - הוא היפך מהיסח הדעת''', וק"ל.
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		+	ועוד להעיר, שנוהגים אנ"ש שאין אומרים תהלים בלילה קודם חצות לילה, לבד מראש השנה ויום הכפורים.
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		+	(חכ"ב עמ' כו)

	== How to avoid ==		== How to avoid ==

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 === Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky ===
-In an address to Yeshiva High School principals, R' Kamentsky told them quite emphatically that Bochurim should be taught not to browbeat themselves about the issue of "wet dreams" and to understand that wet dreams are part and parcel of the human condition. Rav Yaakov then said the following: "We only know of one person in all of Tanach of whom this never occurred, and that is Yaakov Avinu."<ref>Heard from Dr. Shlomie Zimmerman.</ref>
+In an address to Yeshiva High School principals, R' Kamentsky told them quite emphatically that Bochurim should be taught not to browbeat themselves about the issue of "wet dreams" and to understand that wet dreams are part and parcel of the human condition. Rav Yaakov then said the following: "We only know of one person in all of Tanach of whom this never occurred, and that is Yaakov Avinu."<ref>Cited by Dr. Shlomie Zimmerman.</ref>
 For more sources see [[Rav Shlomo Wolbe]]
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 '''See also:'''
 * [https://guardyoureyes.com/articles/testimonials/item/ways-to-prevent-tumat-keri?category_id=18 Ways to Prevent Tumat Keri]
-* See [[Chabad]] - ג'תתקפו - איך למנוע מקרה לילה
+* See [[Chabad]] -  ג'תתקפו, וכן ח'רמב - שלילת אמירת תהלים בכדי למנוע מקרה לילה ועוד שם.
 == From GYE Members ==
 "When the subconscious mind starts to realize that you have made a decision not to watch pornography anymore, it rebels. It wants the "drug." It wants that rush of adrenaline and raised heartbeat. Therefore, when it is in charge - when you are sleeping, half awake, or very spaced out - it will take over and flood your head with images in your memory and cause wet dreams. Ignore all of this completely. It actually means you are winning the war and the subconscious is desperate. It is on the attack. It wants you to feel dirty and evil after the wet dream - but nothing could be farther from the truth!" [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/332710-A-struggling-bochur?limit=15&start=15#333045 #HashemHelpMe]

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	Also known as קרי, מקרה לילה or wet dreams.		Also known as קרי, מקרה לילה or wet dreams.
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		+	== Frequency ==
		+	From [[wikipedia:Nocturnal_emission\|Wikipedia]]:<blockquote>The frequency of nocturnal emissions is highly variable. Some reported that it is due to being sexually inactive for a period of 1–2 weeks, with no engagement in either intercourse or [[masturbation]]. Some males have experienced large numbers of nocturnal emissions as teenagers, ''while others have never experienced one''. In the U.S., 83% of men experience nocturnal emissions at some time in their life.<ref>Kinsey, Alfred C. (1948). ''[https://books.google.com/books?id=pfMKrY3VvigC&pg=PA519 Sexual Behavior in the Human Male]''. p. 190. Retrieved 20 October 2014.</ref> For males who have experienced nocturnal emissions, the mean frequency ranges from 0.36 times per week (about once every three weeks) for single 15-year-old males to 0.18 times per week (about once every five-and-a-half weeks) for 40-year-old single males. For married males, the mean ranges from 0.23 times per week (about once per month) for 19-year-old married males to 0.15 times per week (about once every two months) for 50-year-old married males.<ref>Kinsey, Alfred C. (1948). [https://books.google.com/books?id=pfMKrY3VvigC&pg=PA275 Sexual Behavior in the Human Male]. p. 190. Retrieved 20 October 2014.</ref> In some parts of the world, nocturnal emissions are more common. For example, in Indonesia surveys have shown that 97% of men experience nocturnal emissions by the age of 24.<ref>"[http://www.measuredhs.com/pubs/pdf/FR157/04Chapter04.pdf Knowledge about Human Reproduction and Experience of Puberty]" (PDF). Indonesia Young Adult Reproductive Health Survey 2002–2003. Badan Pusat Statistik (BPS-Statistics Indonesia), Jakarta, Indonesia; National Family Planning Coordinating Board, Jakarta, Indonesia; Ministry of Health, Jakarta, Indonesia, ORC Macro, Calverton, Maryland, U.S. p. 27. Retrieved April 7, 2011.</ref></blockquote>

	== Approach for GYE Members ==		== Approach for GYE Members ==

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 For more sources see [[Rav Shlomo Wolbe]]
-== Additional Sources ==
+== How to avoid ==
 * [https://guardyoureyes.com/articles/testimonials/item/ways-to-prevent-tumat-keri?category_id=18 Ways to Prevent Tumat Keri]
 * See [[Chabad]] - ג'תתקפו - איך למנוע מקרה לילה

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 == Additional Sources ==
 * See [[Chabad]] - ג'תתקפו - איך למנוע מקרה לילה
 == From GYE Members ==
 "When the subconscious mind starts to realize that you have made a decision not to watch pornography anymore, it rebels. It wants the "drug." It wants that rush of adrenaline and raised heartbeat. Therefore, when it is in charge - when you are sleeping, half awake, or very spaced out - it will take over and flood your head with images in your memory and cause wet dreams. Ignore all of this completely. It actually means you are winning the war and the subconscious is desperate. It is on the attack. It wants you to feel dirty and evil after the wet dream - but nothing could be farther from the truth!" [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/332710-A-struggling-bochur?limit=15&start=15#333045 #HashemHelpMe]

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	* See [[Chabad]] - ג'תתקפו - איך למנוע מקרה לילה		* See [[Chabad]] - ג'תתקפו - איך למנוע מקרה לילה
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		+	== From GYE Members ==
		+	"When the subconscious mind starts to realize that you have made a decision not to watch pornography anymore, it rebels. It wants the "drug." It wants that rush of adrenaline and raised heartbeat. Therefore, when it is in charge - when you are sleeping, half awake, or very spaced out - it will take over and flood your head with images in your memory and cause wet dreams. Ignore all of this completely. It actually means you are winning the war and the subconscious is desperate. It is on the attack. It wants you to feel dirty and evil after the wet dream - but nothing could be farther from the truth!" [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/332710-A-struggling-bochur?limit=15&start=15#333045 #HashemHelpMe]

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	== Additional Sources ==		== Additional Sources ==
−	~~Coming soon.~~	+
		+	* See [[Chabad]] - ג'תתקפו - איך למנוע מקרה לילה

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	וראה גם [[The Steipler\|קריינא דאגרתא חלק א סי' קיג]] שצריך לטבול, וב[[The Steipler\|חלק א סי' קיד]] שאם אינו יכול הרי אונס רחמנא פטריה. ו[[Rav Shlomo Wolbe\|הר"ש וולבה כתב]] (אגרות וכתבים ח"א מכתב כד), "אם רצונך ודרכך בכך, תוכל לטבול במקוה, אבל בתנאי שבמקוה לא יתעוררו שום הרהורים".</ref> #Editor		וראה גם [[The Steipler\|קריינא דאגרתא חלק א סי' קיג]] שצריך לטבול, וב[[The Steipler\|חלק א סי' קיד]] שאם אינו יכול הרי אונס רחמנא פטריה. ו[[Rav Shlomo Wolbe\|הר"ש וולבה כתב]] (אגרות וכתבים ח"א מכתב כד), "אם רצונך ודרכך בכך, תוכל לטבול במקוה, אבל בתנאי שבמקוה לא יתעוררו שום הרהורים".</ref> #Editor
		+	* You can use this language when talking to a young boy, "Sometimes, ejaculation may happen while a you sleep. This is called a nocturnal emission or wet dream or mikreh lailah (nighttime occurrence). This is a normal part of puberty and a way for the body to get rid of old sperm. The testes constantly produce new sperm and as old sperm becomes unhealthy, the body gets rid of it through nocturnal emissions or reabsorbs it. Do not worry about zera coming out at night. It is not an ''aveira'' unless the person has been intentionally looking at or thinking about not-''tznius'' things before going to sleep."<ref>From an unpublished draft of a book for parents that GYE is working on.</ref>
	* One tip that might help is to tell the boy that he can do this his own laundry, this way, if he has stains he wants to wash by himself, it won't arouse any suspicion...		* One tip that might help is to tell the boy that he can do this his own laundry, this way, if he has stains he wants to wash by himself, it won't arouse any suspicion...

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	== Approach for GYE Members ==		== Approach for GYE Members ==

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+Also known as wet dreams.
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 For more sources see [[Rav Shlomo Wolbe]]
-== Torah Sources (Additional approaches) ==
+== Additional Sources ==
 Coming soon.