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 *''Masturbating to porn? Your relationship may suffer''. Two large surveys from U.S. found that masturbation has a significant negative impact on relationships for both men and women. Masturbation seems to be more harmful for relationships than porn alone.<ref>Perry, S.L., 2020. Is the link between pornography use and relational happiness really more about masturbation? Results from two national surveys. The Journal of Sex Research, 57(1), pp.64-76.</ref> (Note: Other studies have frequently found that the pornography use may have consequences for relationship satisfaction too. See [[Understanding Pornography]].)
 * See also [https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1Rxma-9HMQZanke8JUylpdZQaJ3sHLdT7DXKYNBNoUNM/edit#gid=422664008 here] in the "understanding masturbation" tab.
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	The Torah consider ''Shmiras Habris'' to be very important, see [[Zera Levatala\|''Zera Levatala'']]. The reasons are complex and are discussed in depth in [[והתקדשתם]] and other seforim. This page focuses on how the most effective way to think about it and deal with it in order to get the best result.		The Torah consider ''Shmiras Habris'' to be very important, see [[Zera Levatala\|''Zera Levatala'']]. The reasons are complex and are discussed in depth in [[והתקדשתם]] and other seforim. This page focuses on how the most effective way to think about it and deal with it in order to get the best result.
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		+	Definition. See SEXUAL BSHAVIOR IN THE HUMAN MALE by Kinsey.
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		+	Miriam Webster: Erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies

	== Torah Sources ==		== Torah Sources ==

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-*There's ''not much good research on masturbation without porn''.<ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjNT0zT9n18&list=PLvvjmy2aYm4E65_HapteFZc58wSfoZorN&index=11 at 00:41.</ref>
+*There's ''not much good research on masturbation without porn''.<ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjNT0zT9n18&list=PLvvjmy2aYm4E65_HapteFZc58wSfoZorN&index=11 at 41:00-43:00. He thinks it's because people ''don't want to probe!'' </ref>
 *''Less happy people are more likely to masturbate.'' Among both women and men, less happy people are more likely to masturbate. It appears that single men use masturbation to compensate for the lack of a stable partner, as even having intercourse in the absence of a stable partner increased the chance of masturbation.<ref>Das, 2007, Das, A., 2007. Masturbation in the United States. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 33(4), pp.301-317.</ref>
 ** חיד"א פני דוד עה"פ זאת הפעם עצם מעצמי שכאשר האדם מצוי בעצבות הסט"א מתלבשת בו ויש לה כח להחטיאו בפגם הברית.

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 *''Less happy people are more likely to masturbate.'' Among both women and men, less happy people are more likely to masturbate. It appears that single men use masturbation to compensate for the lack of a stable partner, as even having intercourse in the absence of a stable partner increased the chance of masturbation.<ref>Das, 2007, Das, A., 2007. Masturbation in the United States. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 33(4), pp.301-317.</ref>
 ** חיד"א פני דוד עה"פ זאת הפעם עצם מעצמי שכאשר האדם מצוי בעצבות הסט"א מתלבשת בו ויש לה כח להחטיאו בפגם הברית.

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	* The Gemara relates that the ''mazal'', celestial sign, under which a person is born can have a profound influence on his nature and his life. In his ''Nefesh Kol Chai,'' Rav Chaim Palagi writes: ''Through the combined merit of shemiras habris and Torah one merits life and sustenance. Though his mazal might indicate otherwise, these two merits can override his mazal.''<ref>See ''Tosafos'' to ''Shabbos'' 147a, ד<nowiki>''</nowiki>ה אין מזל לישראל.</ref> ''Therefore, Chazal tell us that the Jews left Egypt in the merit of the Torah [that they would soon receive] and the merit of bris milah, because these two merits have the power to alter the mazal and effect changes that are beyond the plane of nature. ... One who is careful regarding shemiras habris is not under the influence of the stars and constellations. Therefore, even if he was born under a mazal that indicates he will be childless and poor, he '''can''''' ''merit both children and wealth.''		* The Gemara relates that the ''mazal'', celestial sign, under which a person is born can have a profound influence on his nature and his life. In his ''Nefesh Kol Chai,'' Rav Chaim Palagi writes: ''Through the combined merit of shemiras habris and Torah one merits life and sustenance. Though his mazal might indicate otherwise, these two merits can override his mazal.''<ref>See ''Tosafos'' to ''Shabbos'' 147a, ד<nowiki>''</nowiki>ה אין מזל לישראל.</ref> ''Therefore, Chazal tell us that the Jews left Egypt in the merit of the Torah [that they would soon receive] and the merit of bris milah, because these two merits have the power to alter the mazal and effect changes that are beyond the plane of nature. ... One who is careful regarding shemiras habris is not under the influence of the stars and constellations. Therefore, even if he was born under a mazal that indicates he will be childless and poor, he '''can''''' ''merit both children and wealth.''
		+	Rav Yaakov Abuchatzeira writes:<ref>''Sefer Ginzei HaMelech, Perek Tikkun HaBris.''</ref> ''The Torah is called a “bris” as a hint that the Torah truly attaches itself only to one who safeguards the sanctity of bris milah. Bris milah is referred to as the midah (Heavenly trait) of'' יְסוֹד ''(foundation). In the Zohar, this midah is referred to as'' רָזָא ''(secret). This indicates that the secrets of the Torah are revealed only to someone who is a shomer habris. If one safeguards the sanctity of his bris with kedushah and taharah, only then will the secrets of the Torah be revealed to him.''
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		+	* In his ethical will to his children, Rav Chaim Palagi writes: ''The wondrous way to merit the crown of Torah for oneself and his offspring, is by carefully safeguarding oneself from immorality. As I have written in my sefer “Nefesh Kol Chai” it was revealed to me in a dream that a certain distinguished family merited the crown of Torah for generations because they safeguarded the bris kodesh. This is why they retained the inheritance of Torah from their holy ancestors. For this'' — ''the crown of Torah'' — ''is dependent on this'' — ''shemiras habris.'' Every one of us hopes and prays for good children, children who will be faithful to Hashem and His Torah, and will grow to become ''talmidei chachamim''. It is clear from the above that ''shemiras habris'' is a key to meriting this great ''brachah.''

	For more see [[Heavenly Reward]].		For more see [[Heavenly Reward]].

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 * Emunah: The greatest reward for ''shemiras habris'', more than anything, is the gift of ''emunah shleimah'', pure, complete faith in Hashem. We are a spiritually impoverished generation. Sometimes, ''bnei Torah'' express feelings of sadness and confusion, as they struggle with doubts in matters of faith, ר<nowiki>''</nowiki>ל''.'' Such ''bilbul hamachshavah'', intellectual confusion, is often caused by ''p’gam habris''. In truth, in the deepest recesses of his heart, every Jew is a ''maamin'', a believer in Hashem and the Thirteen Principles of Jewish Faith. However, certain factors, especially ''p’gam habris'', causes one’s ''emunah'' to recede deep inside his ''neshamah'' — until ''teshuvah'' and the cleansing of his thought process allow it to resurface.
 * Yosef HaTzaddik: ''Shemiras habris'' is a key to greatness. This quality is symbolized by Yosef Hatzaddik'','' who withstood the great test with which he was confronted in the house of Potiphar. It is for this reason that the term ''“tzaddik”'' is forever associated with his name. When Yosef finally revealed himself to his brothers, the Torah states, ''“Then Yosef said to his brothers, ‘Come close to me, please,’ and they came close.”''<ref>''Bereishis'' 45:4.</ref> Rashi states that Yosef made known to his brothers that he was circumcised. ''Zohar'' elaborates that the brothers wondered, “Yosef, how did you merit to become King of Egypt?” Yosef showed them that he was מָהוּל'','' meaning that because of his ''shemiras habris'' he merited ''malchus'', kingship.<ref>Yosef HaTzaddik’s greatness is the subject of Chapter Eight.</ref> The Torah states, '''מִ'''י '''יַ'''עֲלֶה '''לָּ'''נוּ '''הַ'''שָּׁמַיְמָה ''Who will ascend for us to Heaven...'' <ref>''Devarim'' 30:12.</ref> ''Zohar'' notes that the initial letters of these words spell מִילָה while the end letters spell י-ה-ו-ה. ''Shemiras habris'' is the primary requirement for spiritual growth. Yaakov Avinu, we are taught, also excelled in this quality.<ref>See ''Rashi'' to ''Bereishis'' 49:3.</ref> He emerged unharmed from his encounters with Lavan and Eisav, and he prevailed over the angel of Eisav. Yaakov is referred to as ''bechir sheb’Avos'', the most outstanding of our three ''Avos''. ''Shemiras habris'' is a quality that was paramount since the days of our earliest ancestors and is a ''midah'' that every ''ben Torah'' must strive to maintain.
 For more see [[Heavenly Reward]].

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 == Torah Sources ==
-* Shulchan Aruch, Even Haezer Siman 23
+* See [[Halachic Background]]
-* Encyclopedia Talmudis השחתת זרע
+* See [[Normalization]]
 * Teshuva is possible, see [[Teshuva]].
-=== Normalization & Not emphasizing the severity ===
+== References ==
 <references />
 [[Category:Masturbation]]

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	* See מרכבות ארגמן סי' לג for a many sources on the topic.		* See מרכבות ארגמן סי' לג for a many sources on the topic.
		+	* Battle of the Generation (punishments are for our good, because they are motivating).

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