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* Disclaimer - the following is my opinion, definitely da'as Torah. Feel free to vehemently disagree. If learning mussar causes you to have a lack of self worth, stop learning it chaver. Or get a rebbi who teaches you how to learn it without bashing yourself. In this parsha, one of the most important things is to have a very healthy sense of self worth. Don't do anything that compromises it. #HashemHelpMe<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/354518-Had-a-fall-after-more-than-90-days-clean?limit=15&start=15#356303 See also this post by #willnevergiveup at https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/354518-Had-a-fall-after-more-than-90-days-clean?limit=15&start=15#356310.</ref> | * Disclaimer - the following is my opinion, definitely da'as Torah. Feel free to vehemently disagree. If learning mussar causes you to have a lack of self worth, stop learning it chaver. Or get a rebbi who teaches you how to learn it without bashing yourself. In this parsha, one of the most important things is to have a very healthy sense of self worth. Don't do anything that compromises it. #HashemHelpMe<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/354518-Had-a-fall-after-more-than-90-days-clean?limit=15&start=15#356303 See also this post by #willnevergiveup at https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/354518-Had-a-fall-after-more-than-90-days-clean?limit=15&start=15#356310.</ref> | ||
* Maybe also write down 5 nice things you do each day. It is important to view yourself as a good productive person (who happens to have a habit...) [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/355893-Observations#356300 #HashemHelpMe] | * Maybe also write down 5 nice things you do each day. It is important to view yourself as a good productive person (who happens to have a habit...) [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/355893-Observations#356300 #HashemHelpMe] | ||
| + | * You got this! Please look at yourself as a whole, and not just at this struggle you have. You're not just a guy who struggles with this. You're a ben-torah, a rebbe, a holy Jew, and a fantastic, growth-oriented person who happens to be struggling with this. [https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/347559-Am-I-going-to-suffer-for-the-rest-of-my-life?limit=15&start=45#348950 @AnsheiZusha] | ||
* I think strategy number one for you is to once a day stand in front of a mirror, focus deeply on the eyes looking back at you, and tell that fellow in the mirror' "Hey, you are a really great fellow! You daven, you learn, you do many mitzvos, and you have the courage to deal with a tough challenge that most guys have but unfortunately can't face. Hashem will help you win. Stop defining yourself as a rasha and loser. You started this habit way back; without the knowledge of how bad it is. Have a great day!" Do this until you start believing it - it is the truth buddy. #HashemHelpMe<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/357149-Re-%2ALIVE%2A-documentation-of-30-days</ref> | * I think strategy number one for you is to once a day stand in front of a mirror, focus deeply on the eyes looking back at you, and tell that fellow in the mirror' "Hey, you are a really great fellow! You daven, you learn, you do many mitzvos, and you have the courage to deal with a tough challenge that most guys have but unfortunately can't face. Hashem will help you win. Stop defining yourself as a rasha and loser. You started this habit way back; without the knowledge of how bad it is. Have a great day!" Do this until you start believing it - it is the truth buddy. #HashemHelpMe<ref>https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/357149-Re-%2ALIVE%2A-documentation-of-30-days</ref> | ||
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See Chizuk, Rav Shlomo Wolbe
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- Disclaimer - the following is my opinion, definitely da'as Torah. Feel free to vehemently disagree. If learning mussar causes you to have a lack of self worth, stop learning it chaver. Or get a rebbi who teaches you how to learn it without bashing yourself. In this parsha, one of the most important things is to have a very healthy sense of self worth. Don't do anything that compromises it. #HashemHelpMe[1]
- Maybe also write down 5 nice things you do each day. It is important to view yourself as a good productive person (who happens to have a habit...) #HashemHelpMe
- You got this! Please look at yourself as a whole, and not just at this struggle you have. You're not just a guy who struggles with this. You're a ben-torah, a rebbe, a holy Jew, and a fantastic, growth-oriented person who happens to be struggling with this. @AnsheiZusha
- I think strategy number one for you is to once a day stand in front of a mirror, focus deeply on the eyes looking back at you, and tell that fellow in the mirror' "Hey, you are a really great fellow! You daven, you learn, you do many mitzvos, and you have the courage to deal with a tough challenge that most guys have but unfortunately can't face. Hashem will help you win. Stop defining yourself as a rasha and loser. You started this habit way back; without the knowledge of how bad it is. Have a great day!" Do this until you start believing it - it is the truth buddy. #HashemHelpMe[2]
- ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/354518-Had-a-fall-after-more-than-90-days-clean?limit=15&start=15#356303 See also this post by #willnevergiveup at https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/354518-Had-a-fall-after-more-than-90-days-clean?limit=15&start=15#356310.
- ↑ https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/357149-Re-%2ALIVE%2A-documentation-of-30-days